Saturday, February 16, 2008

Age of Love


I liked the way Google displayed its logo on 14th February (Valentine's day) because it portrayed a very old couple as opposed to the conventional pictures of teen aged couples on cards, posters and advertisements. This little google symbol conveyed, in my opinion, what the celebration of V-day is supposed to mean.

I guess as I get older, I realize that it is not about the roses, chocolates or cards. It should not be about celebrating togetherness, it should be about celebrating the person who you want to be together with. These ideas might seem to be the same at first glance, but upon inspection, they are two entirely different things. People often complain that "love dies" after a while and those starry-eyed days are short lived. This disappointment arises in the first place because we tend to take the "feel good" things like dinners and gifts as being love. In reality, the measure of love should rather be how good you feel without these "feel good" things. I guess one can stay in love only if he/she loves the other person for what he/she is and not how they can make you feel. The way they make you feel will change according to circumstances... one might not have a good day at office and that might reflect in other things and so on.... but a person does not change much in a lifetime from the point of view of personality.

They are what they are ..see if you can love them for that. I guess couples that are still together after growing old together, actually love each other for what they are and that is why they could stay put through ups and downs. Its only after all those years that we can truly judge if we have reason enough to celebrate Valentine's day.



When thou sigh'st, thou sigh'st not wind,
But sigh'st my soul away ;
When thou weep'st, unkindly kind,
My life's blood doth decay.
It cannot be
That thou lovest me as thou say'st........

-- Sweetest Love, I do not Go by John Donne (1573-1631)

2 comments:

torvo said...

I love seeing old couples holding hands and laughing with each other.

Unknown said...

Me too :)